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Evie’s issue

Posted on: September 29, 2010

Evie will not let me leave the couch.  Why this sounds great in theory.  But there are times that I need to get up you  know to feed the baby or pee.  If I get up she bangs her head on the floor.  If I put on her helmet because she is banging her head.  She SCREAMS!!!! I am losing my mind.  I have lots of phone calls during the day.  There are social workers,lawyers, and therapists to deal with.  I get get up to get information and she screams so loud I can not hear the person on the phone.  I have tried time outs,sending her to her room, turning off Yo Gabba Gabba nothing works.

Any ideas on making this madness go away?


2 Responses to "Evie’s issue"

Aww it seems that Evie and Logan have been collaborating somehow through kiddie vibes. She won’t let you off the couch and Logan won’t get off the couch. I think it has something to do with the couch being a safe object. I’ll let you know if I come up with any strategies.

Until then, grab a bag of cookies, the phone and the baby and settle in 🙂

Wow. That sounds like a pretty severe case of separation anxiety.

What about approaching this in baby steps, working towards the bigger goal of getting off the couch?

So, if you’re on the couch with her, start by sliding forward and sitting on the edge of the couch. This might make her antsy, but if you can hold it for a minute or two, then slide back so you’re sitting next to her again.

Once she’s OK with you sitting on the edge of the couch, move to the floor right in front of the couch. Stand up, as if you’re going somewhere, then sit down against the couch where she can reach you. Reassure her that you’re not going anywhere. Sit for a minute or two, then move back to sitting on the couch with her. If she needs to hold your hand while you’re sitting on the floor then the goal is to eventually get her sitting on the couch and you sitting on the floor not touching.

Once she’s OK with that, then move to sitting a step or two away from the couch for a minute, then back to sitting with her.

Work up to walking out of the room. So you would walk out of her sight, and immediately turn around come back and sit with her.

Then work up to staying out of sight for a minute, two minutes… etc.

Each step might take a week or more to ‘graduate’ from. Don’t push it to hard, otherwise you might end up having to move back a step or two.

I have no idea if this would actually work for you but it’s the only thing I can think of. xoxo

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